Well, much as it hard to believe for some of my friends, I am happy almost all the time. Why? Because I feel awe for life, see beauty in the smallest things, and yes, am always encouraging coach clients, friends and myself, to ask ..." where is the gift?" especially when things aren't perfect yet!
Tonight, in the aisles of Safeway, a large grocery store here, I ran into a friend I hadn't seen for a while. He asked how I was. And for a change, my response was different. Because my life is different at this moment. So I replied... " I am in the valley..." and he seemed to light up, relate and knew exactly what I meant. ( He lost his wife just after childbirth 6 years ago).
My husband and I have decided on a trial separation after 20 years. Sure, we have our different views - always had - and it's not that we don't get along. We do. But we both want more than the status quo marriage we have had for at least the last year. His boss said people were never meant to live as long as we do now (with modern medicine) nor are they meant to be married more than 20 years. I can't answer to that but I do see, am meeting and speaking with other couples in 20 year marriages that are, or have separated after the same amount of time.
Back to ' in the valley'. When I said this, my friend, Ray, said people don't talk about this. We wear our masks, maybe because talking about being ' in the valley ' is uncomfortable if you haven't been there and can't understand. And it makes others want to run. Anyways, that's where I am and as Ray, my coach friends and myself believe .... that is where all the growth takes place. So here I am. Ready to sprout.
Spotting Opportunities...How limited is your vision?
I am reading this book - okay those of you who know me - it is one of 10 books I am really reading. At the moment I need to make some very critical decisions in my personal life. This is from Goal Mapping - how to trun your dreams into realities - by Brian Mayne. I chose it because it has some great mind mapping visual examples.
The first step to making a decision or overcoming a challenge - is to raise your awareness, the author says. This means I need to raise my awareness of myself, my current situation, the likely outcomes of my action or inaction. But... this awareness if just my personal viewpoint - a paradigm or belief. If I don't want to come at the future from the past, I need to access my heart, feel what my gut says, and not just go through the logic or intellect as I can tend to do. I am diverting... what I really want to share is some of these quotes he offers, particularily the first...
Every man takes the limits of his vision, for the limits of the world. Arthur Schopenhauer
The first step to making a decision or overcoming a challenge - is to raise your awareness, the author says. This means I need to raise my awareness of myself, my current situation, the likely outcomes of my action or inaction. But... this awareness if just my personal viewpoint - a paradigm or belief. If I don't want to come at the future from the past, I need to access my heart, feel what my gut says, and not just go through the logic or intellect as I can tend to do. I am diverting... what I really want to share is some of these quotes he offers, particularily the first...
Every man takes the limits of his vision, for the limits of the world. Arthur Schopenhauer
take this Ultimate Happiness Lesson.....
This is from Robert Holden.. I am reading his very insightful book right now, called, be happy..... here's his exercise...
He asks us to imagine for a moment we come to Earth to learn ONE MAJOR LESSON ABOUT HAPPINESS. He calls this our "ULTIMATE" happiness lesson. And he tells us this lesson is important becuase it underpins the overall purpose of our life. He says...
If you were to learn this lesson REALLY well, it would radically improve your relationships, your work, your health, and everything about your life.
WHAT IS THAT LESSON??
He asks us to imagine for a moment we come to Earth to learn ONE MAJOR LESSON ABOUT HAPPINESS. He calls this our "ULTIMATE" happiness lesson. And he tells us this lesson is important becuase it underpins the overall purpose of our life. He says...
If you were to learn this lesson REALLY well, it would radically improve your relationships, your work, your health, and everything about your life.
WHAT IS THAT LESSON??
Come to a Free talk and discover how to make your life more enriching
This is so simple. Because my message is ...you don't have to do anything. Okay, well maybe bring your open, curious mind so you can see differently. But that's it! I want you to discover what makes you amazing. Or tell me if you already know it. At this free talk - at Coal Harbour Community Centre - yes, it's on the waterfront - with boats and stuff : ) you can get a feel for a couple of courses I may be offering this fall - one, on Identifying your Natural Genius - the other -an interactive one too, where we create Vision Boards for what you want your life, work, relationships to look like. Here are the details so far. Come find out what this all about, why you need it, and what's in it for you!
BE MORE YOU. Introduction to Identifying your Natural Genius, Vision Board, this fall!
Most people feel they are capable of a life far more enriching than the one they are currently living - and you are! - but often they don’t know how to get it. So we waste the better part of our lives trying to be somebody we were never meant to be. And we miss out - by never seeing our own beauty. I want to invite you to this free lecture because I want you to at least consider that you do - we each do - have a natural and unique genius. Your natural genius is something you do so effortlessly that you probably don’t even think about it. And it directs everything you do or don’t do.
In this free lecture, you will discover why knowing yourself is key. Key to your happiness, key to contentment, key to finding meaningful work. When you give yourself permission to be you, stop ignoring what matters to you, consider what others can count on you for..the benefits are better decisions, more clarity, huge confidence, clearer communication and a great sense of relief, peace and purpose. It’s not too late, no matter what your age.
Facilitator: Wendy Lotosky Free
Choose from one of these two dates/times:
Thursday, July 9 6:30 - 8:00 p.m. presentation, question and answer
Tuesday, August 11 7:00 - 8:15 p.m.
Are you ready for your Best Year yet?
Hi. You made it here!
Anyone who knows me knows I like parties, crowds and playing dress up. And questioning the rules. Especially ones that don't make sense. Like trying to write personal cards to 200 close friends at Christmas time. Or starting off the New Years with flat, pricey parties eating and drinking too much, and feeling no different the next day.
If you have made it to the bottom of your glass, and the meaninglessness of New Years, how would you like to try something novel - have fun - and walk into the New Year really looking forward to it - because you see something different, not just frustration.
I am going to assume you said a great big ' Yes!' and are coming to my workshop, 9:30 a.m. - 4:00 pm, Saturday, January 3rd, Best Year Yet, at Coal Harbour Community Centre in downtown Vancouver, a block from Stanley Park and right on the water! If you haven't yet registered, call the Coal Harbour Community Centre and sign up! 604-718- 8222 course number 45410.101 or on-line www.westendcc.ca It will be the best value you get for your money this year!
Why? Because not only I am offering you a whole day of empowerment and fun at a ridiculously low price ($59/person $89 /couples) - because I really want to see excitement your face ... when the New Year arrives AND!!.. especially next year,when it ends. Besides, investing in yourself is the best investment you can make in your life. It's something not many people are good at and so they carry on, going to the same job, the same way, each day. But that's not you -right? Right? This workshop puts you back in the driving seat!
Ready for some serious play? I am. Ready for a powerful, and meaningul new way to do New Years?! Then, come out and play at 'Cool' Harbour!
Anyone who knows me knows I like parties, crowds and playing dress up. And questioning the rules. Especially ones that don't make sense. Like trying to write personal cards to 200 close friends at Christmas time. Or starting off the New Years with flat, pricey parties eating and drinking too much, and feeling no different the next day.
If you have made it to the bottom of your glass, and the meaninglessness of New Years, how would you like to try something novel - have fun - and walk into the New Year really looking forward to it - because you see something different, not just frustration.
I am going to assume you said a great big ' Yes!' and are coming to my workshop, 9:30 a.m. - 4:00 pm, Saturday, January 3rd, Best Year Yet, at Coal Harbour Community Centre in downtown Vancouver, a block from Stanley Park and right on the water! If you haven't yet registered, call the Coal Harbour Community Centre and sign up! 604-718- 8222 course number 45410.101 or on-line www.westendcc.ca It will be the best value you get for your money this year!
Why? Because not only I am offering you a whole day of empowerment and fun at a ridiculously low price ($59/person $89 /couples) - because I really want to see excitement your face ... when the New Year arrives AND!!.. especially next year,when it ends. Besides, investing in yourself is the best investment you can make in your life. It's something not many people are good at and so they carry on, going to the same job, the same way, each day. But that's not you -right? Right? This workshop puts you back in the driving seat!
Ready for some serious play? I am. Ready for a powerful, and meaningul new way to do New Years?! Then, come out and play at 'Cool' Harbour!
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