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Is there something you want (or maybe don't want ) to be, do, or have in your life but it just isn't happening? 

Hmmm.  I sense a gremlin out there. Hear him? or maybe her? ..'Who do you think you are? ..  what makes what you think anyone cares about what you have to say...you aren't ready.... you can't do that..." and so on.

Don't worry you aren't alone. These guys show up ever time you step out on the limb, decide to try something different or new ... or challenge the status quo in any way.

But, in this workshop, not only is it possible to shut these guys up,  laugh at them, or send them for a beer while you do what you need to do....it is also empowering ---past participants even told me it was fun!

If you have had enough; want to discover your Gremlins dastardly tactics; and are ready to challenge some of your beliefs ... email me, wendylotosky@yahoo.com,  with the subject line: I AM READY TO GAG MY GREMLINS!

"Welcome to Gremlin Drawing"

SAVE YOUR SPOT! Email to register: wendylotosky@yahoo.com   Subject: I want to Gag my Gremlins!


Come engage in some 'serious play' - befriending your gremlins - those voices that enter every time we take on anything with an element of risk or change. They say things like: That's impossible. You can't do that! You are too old. You can't afford it. What a dumb idea. No one ever changes. What were you thinking ....? You are going to look like an idiot. You won't get it. Why do you even bother? It's not the right time. When are you going to learn? Have some more chocolate.

Everyone has a Gremlin. Call it your 'it', inner critic, ego, whatever - and its a developmental necessity. And, if you don't have one....you might want to get curious.. " Hmm... has my life and my game become small, safe, beige... more of the same? "

Beachbum Boris is mine. He saunders around in his shorts, with his sandy feet on the grey hassock, laughing too loudly on his cell phone, inquiring if I have seen his straw hat - saying things like... "Why don't you get one of those office jobs? You know with regular hours and a good medical plan so you can go to the beach and get paid for going on holidays? All your friends are out playing and here you are. Sure it's a great idea, but its going to cost you a lot of time and money and then what? Go get me some chocolate....."

Your Gremlin does have a purpose. And it is to keep you from being eaten! But he goes overboard. And the thing he abhors? Change! The bad news? He sneaks into your life in chldhood, is there for the journey and - he is not going away. He costs us our health, our sanity, our abundance, our confidence, and keeps us from the relationships, love, joy, career, dreams and life we want.

The good news?! They are big fat liars! And the process is easy and fun. This is not about more rules, deep thinking, analyzing or trying to figure out a gremlin. It's more about accepting, allowing.. and options.

I am going to give you some tricks to make it easy for you to move forward and enjoy your life. And it's not about more rules, or deep learning, analyzing or rationalizing ... so its safe for all you students.

And for a ridiculously silly price of $36. with coffee and treats for your gremlins. Why?! Because I have become a Master at Gremlin Gagging, though always a student, having plenty lately of my own lately, and I want to share some of these amazing techniques with you. See you there!

Call and invite your friends who like to play and come on board!
Finger Gremlins for you for groups of 5 or more!

REGISTER  by sending me an email: wendylotosky@yahoo.com   Subject: I am ready to Gag my Gremlins      ( of course your Gremlin will say.. ' No you aren't.'  Tell him you are going anyway

Bad hair, chewing gum and grumbling encouraged!

Using the last year as a valuable source

I love a New Year!

In part because I gravitate to new experiences, new ideas, new ways of doing things, and learning. I don't have many traditions ( probably because I do like new...) but this is one I started 20 ? years ago and it has taken on a life of it's own.

The last 5 or so years I have added these components to the collecting photos, making an album of the year to include .... reflection, appreciation of wins and challenges, identifying the theme from the past year ... coaching for what we might want in the next year....how to move towards it, obstacles and resistance that will arise.

This year I am adding a letter to future self from wise today self - which I will actually give to a trusted friend to mail at an appropriate time.... looking deeply at beliefs - because as you know, wise readers, before there can be a change in behaviour, there has to be a change in how we think.... and Then it is take off time.... visualizing an outcome, creating a vision board and walking backwards in the steps or how to get there.... then letting go of the outcomes and opening to the universe. It is an amazing, enlightening, empowering process - which I am working on making into a system -- anyone want to help? - so I can it to all of you who are interested.

Your past year is a source of invaluable information. It can tell you more about how you are doing, where you are going, the next step, than any lecture, book or video - even mine ! ha!

Your past year is full of hints ! hints about wins, successess, increasing income, building amazing relationshipss, gaining the recognition you seek, and making the difference in your life and to others

The short of it is -- using calendars and photos to look at your life, determining what rules you were following. Some of the ones I was using in the past that haven't worked are ... avoiding opening the bills or filing at the end of the week. Some that have worked are... starting now, taking that first step, having that difffcult conversation, stepping into the fear realizing action is the only way through.... After reviewing your wins and challenges..... write down your top3 lessons. Then, the fun part. You get to give yourself instructions or advice to follow for the t year. What worked that you want to repeat? What would have worked better? What is the lie, the denial you have been telling yourself... the story you are stuck in and have been convincing yourself and others of - identify the payoffs for yourself and move on!

Take a minute or two... to imagine how different the next year could be if you followed your own lessons. Who would you be? What qualities, skills, resources could you draw on? Any heros or people you can use as models? What difference would this make of getting it, really getting it , throwing in and then acting on your own wisdom and advice - in making your life, your finances, your relationships, your health......your whole total life!!!! a whole new story this year?

Write me a note and tell me if you want to hear more.

Are you ready to say... to discover what makes YOU amazing?

The " Identify your Genius" workshop is coming up soon. Don't miss out. Sign up now for four power packed sessions and discover what makes you amazing.

Only by really knowing yourself - and it will always come back to this! - will you get that wonderful, empowering, peaceful yet energizing feeling -- of knowing and being able to identify your natural genius - why you are here, what you bring to everything you participate in - in life, in relationships, in work...

The real beauty is a different way of seeing yourself in a new way ... and knowing when an opportunity is an opportunity for you!

Register by emailing: wendylotosky@yahoo.com   Subject: " I want to Identify my Genius"  See you there!

What's Next?

For those of you were at the last (or any) workshops) of mine, I welcome your comments, feedback and stories. I want to hear not just about your wins but about where you are stopped.... putting it into words can help you clarify what worked or didn't work.

It may help others, may help you realize how not alone you are, get you feedback from others .. at the very least .. create more awareness about who you are, what motivates you, where you get stuck (interesting, we tend to get stuck in the same place, with the same issue, be in career moves, relationships.... etc. because we are such creatures of habit and in short ... help you dig deeply and discover more about who you really are. And that's really where the breakthroughs come.

So let me know. Write about it.

And check out the West End and Coal Harbour Community Guide for details on the real Identify your Genius work, Gremlin drawing or suggest other fun workshops you would like to participate in.

And remember.... it's when you are venturing into new territory.,.. your resistance.. those gremlins in your head really start acting out ... saying things like ... " whoa, who do you think you are .. " and all that. But if we remember their purpose - they are there to keep us safe so they really don't like change .... you can either send them down the street to get you a latte, suggest they go out for beer or .. maybe just put your arm around them and tell them it will be okay..... and DO IT ANYWAY!

Take the absolute smallest step ... the one you have no resistance to.... you know the one.. its when you say... yeah, I can do that... then send in a comment and tell me about it. Til next time!

Be More You! a free lecture! tonight! Tues August 11th ... and an opportunity to explore 'you' this fall ..

Who are you? What do you say to describe yourself when asked? The question is... How well do you know yourself... I mean REALLY know yourself? Some of us are more aware of who we are than others. Knowing yourself is a life pursuit. It's not possible to know everything about ourselves. But most of us stay so unconscious and unaware that often one day we wake up and realize we are living lives other people have chosen for us. We go through life confused, from job to job, from relationship to relationship not knowing what we really want.

Knowing who you are is key. It gives you the courage to play full out, to live, speak, be authentic and live a life of meaning - recognizing your gifts - living with passion - having a reason to jump out of bed in the morning - even if you are retired, you know you have something to discover or contribute.

"By nature, as humans we are magnificent (Dr. Joe Rubino- Restore your Magnificence). We have the ability to overcome obstacles, achieve our goals, honor and live our greatest values, attain happiness, and... contribute our gifts to the world. So what happens? Somewhere along the way through life experiences we start judging ourselves and fall into the trap of thinking that the entire world sees as as being as pathetic as we see ourselves. Suffering is always optional but you have a chance to reclaim responsibility for our life and magnificence, transform your life and restore your magnificence."

Mike Robbins (author, speaker, coach ) tells us...."Too often we know who ' we think we are', 'who we want to be', or 'who we should be'. We define ourselves by our actions, habits and roles which is understandable because we live in a results driven world. But the more we see and understand what is below the surface, (our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values, imagination) the more access we have to live free, open and authentic lives of meaning, purpose and passion."

My wish is for you to see your beauty, to love yourself, to love others and to love life. When you don't - you blame; fear failure; and, avoid risk. When you value yourself you can,and want to contribute and love this world we live in. There is something unique about you. Something only you can offer in your own unique way. And someone is waiting for it. Come discover your gift so you can give to others. Come because you are bored. Because you like looking at boats. Come out, try on another view. Get re-enchanted with everyday life. Move through that door and see the amazing possibilities you can create in your life and in your world. REGISTER NOW. F R E E !! By calling....604 718 8222

COAL HARBOUR COMMUNITY CENTRE
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Be More You
Wendy Lotosky
Tuesday evening, August 11

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how are you? such simple question. How do you answer?

Well, much as it hard to believe for some of my friends, I am happy almost all the time. Why? Because I feel awe for life, see beauty in the smallest things, and yes, am always encouraging coach clients, friends and myself, to ask ..." where is the gift?" especially when things aren't perfect yet!

Tonight, in the aisles of Safeway, a large grocery store here, I ran into a friend I hadn't seen for a while. He asked how I was. And for a change, my response was different. Because my life is different at this moment. So I replied... " I am in the valley..." and he seemed to light up, relate and knew exactly what I meant. ( He lost his wife just after childbirth 6 years ago).

My husband and I have decided on a trial separation after 20 years. Sure, we have our different views - always had - and it's not that we don't get along. We do. But we both want more than the status quo marriage we have had for at least the last year. His boss said people were never meant to live as long as we do now (with modern medicine) nor are they meant to be married more than 20 years. I can't answer to that but I do see, am meeting and speaking with other couples in 20 year marriages that are, or have separated after the same amount of time.

Back to ' in the valley'. When I said this, my friend, Ray, said people don't talk about this. We wear our masks, maybe because talking about being ' in the valley ' is uncomfortable if you haven't been there and can't understand. And it makes others want to run. Anyways, that's where I am and as Ray, my coach friends and myself believe .... that is where all the growth takes place. So here I am. Ready to sprout.