Finding your Limiting Beliefs & Create YOUR BEST YEAR YET!

So what area of your life is not working as well as you would like?

..... Find your limiting beliefs, by following this process.....

If they can have fun & at smile at me.... what's stops us?!

1. Ask yourself in which area of your life are you not getting what you want? (it could be any...career, relationships, home environment, finance, health....) 


2. What story/excuse do you tell yourself to explain the things are the way they are?


3. Look for the belief behind it. Where do you think it comes from? Is it true?  Can you find evidence that it might not be true?


4. What is the payoff (eg. I don’t have to change, risk failing, get to complain (ouch!), get to be right, get to be a good guy/gal... and I am sure you can think of a lot more!)  


5. What is the impact of living like this? What is it the real cost to your :  peace of mind, finances, happiness, health, career, relationship, financial situation??


6. What belief would serve you better? ___________________ What would that make available to you? ......... How would your life look then? ..... What would you be doing differently?


Now, what is stopping you? One Life. That's all we get. What will you do with it?


(This is a great exercise to come back and for different areas of your life)

• Register your interest today.... for my annual Best Year Yet workshop and Vision Boarding --  my guarantee: you will be amazed at all that happened, you learned and did the past year- and! you will walk away with a completely new awareness of what really matters to you, what is still unlearned yet. and discover your own personal method to motivate yourself - based on what worked & didn't work this year for you!   email me:  wendylotosky@yahoo.com     Subject: I want a Best Year & Vision Board..  And let this be your best New Years Party yet!

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Is there something you want (or maybe don't want ) to be, do, or have in your life but it just isn't happening? 

Hmmm.  I sense a gremlin out there. Hear him? or maybe her? ..'Who do you think you are? ..  what makes what you think anyone cares about what you have to say...you aren't ready.... you can't do that..." and so on.

Don't worry you aren't alone. These guys show up ever time you step out on the limb, decide to try something different or new ... or challenge the status quo in any way.

But, in this workshop, not only is it possible to shut these guys up,  laugh at them, or send them for a beer while you do what you need to do....it is also empowering ---past participants even told me it was fun!

If you have had enough; want to discover your Gremlins dastardly tactics; and are ready to challenge some of your beliefs ... email me, wendylotosky@yahoo.com,  with the subject line: I AM READY TO GAG MY GREMLINS!

"Welcome to Gremlin Drawing"

SAVE YOUR SPOT! Email to register: wendylotosky@yahoo.com   Subject: I want to Gag my Gremlins!


Come engage in some 'serious play' - befriending your gremlins - those voices that enter every time we take on anything with an element of risk or change. They say things like: That's impossible. You can't do that! You are too old. You can't afford it. What a dumb idea. No one ever changes. What were you thinking ....? You are going to look like an idiot. You won't get it. Why do you even bother? It's not the right time. When are you going to learn? Have some more chocolate.

Everyone has a Gremlin. Call it your 'it', inner critic, ego, whatever - and its a developmental necessity. And, if you don't have one....you might want to get curious.. " Hmm... has my life and my game become small, safe, beige... more of the same? "

Beachbum Boris is mine. He saunders around in his shorts, with his sandy feet on the grey hassock, laughing too loudly on his cell phone, inquiring if I have seen his straw hat - saying things like... "Why don't you get one of those office jobs? You know with regular hours and a good medical plan so you can go to the beach and get paid for going on holidays? All your friends are out playing and here you are. Sure it's a great idea, but its going to cost you a lot of time and money and then what? Go get me some chocolate....."

Your Gremlin does have a purpose. And it is to keep you from being eaten! But he goes overboard. And the thing he abhors? Change! The bad news? He sneaks into your life in chldhood, is there for the journey and - he is not going away. He costs us our health, our sanity, our abundance, our confidence, and keeps us from the relationships, love, joy, career, dreams and life we want.

The good news?! They are big fat liars! And the process is easy and fun. This is not about more rules, deep thinking, analyzing or trying to figure out a gremlin. It's more about accepting, allowing.. and options.

I am going to give you some tricks to make it easy for you to move forward and enjoy your life. And it's not about more rules, or deep learning, analyzing or rationalizing ... so its safe for all you students.

And for a ridiculously silly price of $36. with coffee and treats for your gremlins. Why?! Because I have become a Master at Gremlin Gagging, though always a student, having plenty lately of my own lately, and I want to share some of these amazing techniques with you. See you there!

Call and invite your friends who like to play and come on board!
Finger Gremlins for you for groups of 5 or more!

REGISTER  by sending me an email: wendylotosky@yahoo.com   Subject: I am ready to Gag my Gremlins      ( of course your Gremlin will say.. ' No you aren't.'  Tell him you are going anyway

Bad hair, chewing gum and grumbling encouraged!

Using the last year as a valuable source

I love a New Year!

In part because I gravitate to new experiences, new ideas, new ways of doing things, and learning. I don't have many traditions ( probably because I do like new...) but this is one I started 20 ? years ago and it has taken on a life of it's own.

The last 5 or so years I have added these components to the collecting photos, making an album of the year to include .... reflection, appreciation of wins and challenges, identifying the theme from the past year ... coaching for what we might want in the next year....how to move towards it, obstacles and resistance that will arise.

This year I am adding a letter to future self from wise today self - which I will actually give to a trusted friend to mail at an appropriate time.... looking deeply at beliefs - because as you know, wise readers, before there can be a change in behaviour, there has to be a change in how we think.... and Then it is take off time.... visualizing an outcome, creating a vision board and walking backwards in the steps or how to get there.... then letting go of the outcomes and opening to the universe. It is an amazing, enlightening, empowering process - which I am working on making into a system -- anyone want to help? - so I can it to all of you who are interested.

Your past year is a source of invaluable information. It can tell you more about how you are doing, where you are going, the next step, than any lecture, book or video - even mine ! ha!

Your past year is full of hints ! hints about wins, successess, increasing income, building amazing relationshipss, gaining the recognition you seek, and making the difference in your life and to others

The short of it is -- using calendars and photos to look at your life, determining what rules you were following. Some of the ones I was using in the past that haven't worked are ... avoiding opening the bills or filing at the end of the week. Some that have worked are... starting now, taking that first step, having that difffcult conversation, stepping into the fear realizing action is the only way through.... After reviewing your wins and challenges..... write down your top3 lessons. Then, the fun part. You get to give yourself instructions or advice to follow for the t year. What worked that you want to repeat? What would have worked better? What is the lie, the denial you have been telling yourself... the story you are stuck in and have been convincing yourself and others of - identify the payoffs for yourself and move on!

Take a minute or two... to imagine how different the next year could be if you followed your own lessons. Who would you be? What qualities, skills, resources could you draw on? Any heros or people you can use as models? What difference would this make of getting it, really getting it , throwing in and then acting on your own wisdom and advice - in making your life, your finances, your relationships, your health......your whole total life!!!! a whole new story this year?

Write me a note and tell me if you want to hear more.